I was made to be Taylor’s mama. I’m sure of it.
She gives me a sense of purpose like I’ve never known, and I love her so much I feel it in my bones. I am sure you feel just the same about yours. Becoming a new mom and entering motherhood is so many things – overwhelming, exhilarating, exhausting, joy-filled, emotional and almost surreal at times. Our reality is altered and identity redefined.
Once we’re made mamas, we don’t leave behind all that we were prior [except being pregnant, of course!]: wives, volunteers, professionals, besties, foodies, fit chicks, etc. However, finding yourself and your balance again in motherhood can a bit challenging:
- Whether by necessity or choice, many of us return to work either full or part time. We worry about the time away from our little ones, and wonder how we can sanely balance both a career and the full-time [24/7] job of being a [GREAT] mama. Some of us even contemplate making the switch to become a stay at home mom.
- Grabbing dinner with a girlfriend used to be as easy as picking a date and place with a good wine list and a killer
saladburger. The only thing barring “date night” was being too exhausted from a long Friday at work, and choosing a lazy night of Lululemon + wine + Netflix binging instead [almost always the better choice anyway!].
- We want to look and feel our best postpartum, yet working out 4-5 days a week for 1-2 hours a pop just doesn’t fit into many of our lives anymore. Or maybe that didn’t ever fit, and the idea of starting a postpartum fitness routine now seems completely daunting. Where and how to even start?
So, is it possible to thrive at work [without guilt], get back into shape [and NO, self-care does not make you vain], and see our relationships continue to grow and flourish, all while being the STELLAR mamas our babies deserve?
I believe it is absolutely possible, and I intend to get creative and make the adjustments necessary to find a balance that makes me the best version of myself, and therefore the best mama I can be for Taylor.
[Update August 2017: After a year of being back at work after maternity leave, I made a HUGE decision to leave a career I loved and become a stay at home mom to Taylor, who I love even more; Talk about making the “adjustments necessary,” right?? You can read more about that decision here and here.]
As I write this, I’ve only been at this mothering business for 2.5 months. I claim no expertise or answers other than what I’ve learned works for my family and me through trial and error, as well as the wisdom I’ve gleaned from others. Honestly, I made it through these first months in tact by relying on the shared experience, tips and advice from the awesome been-there-done-that mamas I know; their willingness to reach out, encourage and support me as I embark on this new journey has been absolutely invaluable.
If I can be an encouragement and resource like that to someone else, help a first time mom feel less crazy/confused/overwhelmed, recommend something that will make another mom’s life easier or sweeter, build connections between women around authentic motherhood, and foster a community of sharing things that can help us to be better mamas and versions of ourselves, then I will have accomplished what I hope to with this endeavor.
I’m really looking forward to sharing with you.
Other Ta[y]lor-made Mama posts you may be interested in:
- How I Decided To Leave A Successful Career To Become A Stay At Home Mom
- 12 Things I Never Understood About Moms Until I Became One
- How To Be Confident In Your Postpartum Body – No Diet Involved!
- “You Look Tired” And Other Terrible Phrases No Mom Wants To Hear
- Maternity Leave Routine For Mom and Baby